While it is commonly known that females (i.e. people with a vulva) can enjoy multiple orgasms during sex, the same question for men has always lingered upon in the minds of people. Can people with a penis also have multiple orgasms?
We are here to find that out today, dig a little deep into it and tell you all you need to know about male multiple orgasms.
Various sex therapists and researchers around the world have confirmed that men can also experience multiple orgasms, though they aren’t as common as in females. A study published in 2016 talked to various men regarding this and found out that less than 10% of men in their 20s, whereas less than even 7% of them reported experiencing multiple orgasms in their 30s.
Also, male multiple orgasms are generally of two types:
- Sporadic multiple orgasms, wherein there is a time gap of a few minutes between two consecutive orgasms; and
- Condensed multiple orgasms, which come in a burst of two or maybe more orgasms within a time of a few seconds.
The most important thing that you would want to know here is how can you actually enjoy multiple orgasms during sex. The key is orgasm without ejaculation. Now, although the two things generally come hand-in-hand, it is pertinent to note that they are separate terms, and you can very well have an orgasm without ejaculation. If you train yourself to have orgasms without ejaculation, you can easily have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms during sex.
Now that we’re on it, let us discuss the most common and effective methods you can try to achieve this.
The practice of stopping yourself just a moment before ejaculating is known as edging, as in right when you’re on the edge. This can be achieved when you practice the same while masturbation. Don’t fall off the cliff, and stop right at the edge. This will help you achieve more number of non-ejaculatory orgasms during your sex session.
The key is to get as close to it as you can, at the point of ‘no return’, but not reach the climax yet. To illustrate, what we are talking about is reaching 9.5 on a scale of 0 to 10. Edging while masturbating will help you know your own limits. However, you must know that this will require regular practice and training your mind to experience non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms.
Strengthen your muscles:
Controlling your pelvic floor muscles is the key ingredient in having non-ejaculatory orgasms. You can go for Kegel exercises, which are highly beneficial for enhancing the sexual performance of all genders. Strengthening these muscles can effectively control orgasmic and ejaculatory responses. The muscles in your body which stretch from the pubic bone to the tailbone, called the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle is the one responsible for ejaculation in your body.
Your mind and your body work together:
You will have to learn to sync your mind and your body to achieve what you want. Your physical experience can be greatly enhanced when your mind is also working in rhythm with your body. Try touching any part of your genitals while thinking about touching it, and linking it to your mind.
This also becomes extremely important while you’re having sex. The key is to stop thinking about intercourse constantly. When you stop thinking about the climax or the goal, i.e. orgasm, you will be in a better position to appreciate and take the pleasure of whatever you’re experiencing before that. Develop a connection of intimacy with your partner, build up your sexual energy, delve deeper into the surges of emotional and physical pleasure.
Sex is a pleasurable activity, and everything works better when you’re enjoying it, when you and your partner feel connected, physically as well as mentally.
Focus on breathing:
Another most effective way to control sexual responses is to learn how to harness your breath from the floor of the pelvis up to the top of your body. When you move closer to the point of ejaculation, your breath rate increases sharply, hence increasing your heart rate. If you learn to control your breath, and consequently, your heart rate, your ejaculations can be greatly controlled.
For this purpose, you can go for deep belly breathing or diaphragm breathing exercises. To practice these, all you need to do is sit somewhere, and completely relax. Inhale deeply through your nose, without moving your chest at all. You will see for yourself as your stomach expands during this. You can practice this every day at your home, or in situations where you feel stressed and your breath rate has increased.
Stimulating the p-spot:
Prostate orgasms can also be one good way to have multiple orgasms in men. You can start exploring this side of your body by masturbation. It is always easier and better to try something yourself when you’re doing it for the first time. You may also use toys, and try to include prostate orgasm in your regular masturbation habits, slowly and gradually.
Prostate orgasm is actually quite different from penile stimulation, and this one feels like a full-body orgasm. For some of you, this might seem like a new area to explore, and we would definitely recommend you to dive deeper into it and know more about your own body.
Have realistic expectations:
This is a known fact that men generally cannot experience more than one penal orgasm during one sex session. Therefore, to expect that you can have 5-6 orgasms right after this little knowledge would be too much., we’d say. Time, practise, and patience is the key.
Remember that expanding your sexual capacity and controlling your sexual and ejaculatory responses is not a one-night thing, it will take time and effort. So be patient with it. And if you do so, we’re sure you can definitely conquer the art of male multiple orgasms.
This is all about multiple orgasms in men. We hope this helps you in understanding the concept of multiple orgasms, and how can you work to achieve them.