Who doesn’t want to last longer in bed? It not only makes you sexually alluring but also leaves a lasting impression on your partner. To not cum fast is a dream of every man that not only boosts your confidence but also lessens and takes away all your anxieties regarding your sexual abilities.

One major advantage that you get if you do not cum fast is that it leaves you with the upper hand during the intercourse, even if you don’t perform well and psst, arent so great in bed. The average duration of men lasting is around 5-7 minutes but on an average, at least half of the men last for only 2-2 ½ minutes in bed. Hence, unsurprisingly, you are not alone in the boat, there is almost half the population sailing in the same boat. 

What is Fast and what is the Ideal Duration?

Many people have wrongly believed that sex is supposed to be of short duration and you could be one of them. What did you think of the maximum duration of sex? Not more than 5 minutes, right? That is a completely wrong idea that we all have been fed because most of us don’t last longer in bed. Now, did you know about the ideal length of sex and appropriate duration to not cum fast? It is 10-25 minutes. Whoops!

And if this report has taken you aback then you may have male sexual dysfunction, and this article is a must-read for you not cum fast, and for that, you need to control cum while you engage in foreplay before the actual sexual intercourse. 

Why do you Cum Fast? Why is Sex not Long

Obviously, both of you want long-lasting sex, and it is not a dream to be quite honest. You can easily make your sex last longer with the easiest and most basic things. Let us  know some of the causes that can cause premature ejaculation.

There are some of the common causes that can lead to premature ejaculation, thereby resulting in premature ejaculation in bed. Let us have a look at the causes of cumming fast in bed. 

• Being sexually inexperienced can cause premature ejaculation. That is why the first time you have sex it is never your best performance.
• Not being comfortable in your body can also cause anxiety which can result in you cumming faster.
• Guilt is another reason that can cause a lack of interest and make you dispassionate about the entire sex act.
• Anxiety and stress also lower down the sexual performance rate.
• Previous relationship problems can also adversely affect the duration of sex.

Want to Know How to Not Cum Fast?

It is quite easy and in your hands. Here are a few things you can do is calm your penis down. Let us have a look at these:

1. Simmer down your Sexual Stress and Anxiety

Confidence is the key: not only in everyday life, but in your sexual life too. If you start worrying about how it will or what will happen if you cum fast, then chances are that you will not be able to control cumming. Your body after sensing your anxiety and stress will make the internal condition in such a way that you won’t be able to expose to that environment for a longer period. So, higher the anxiety, lesser the duration. 

2. Talk to your Partner about your Problem and Anxiety

Talking is considered underrated, but it is one of the easiest ways to sort anything out. Talk about how and why you feel anxious so that your partner can help ease and sort things out. This is one of those things that you seel help with you partner instead of being embarrassed about it. 

3. Do exercises to prevent Premature Ejaculation

Surprised, no? Yes, there are exercises that can help you not cum fast. Come on, let’s do them! Do kegels and reverse kegels everyday for 10 minutes. The PC or Pubococcygeus muscle controls urination and ejaculation both. Therefore, it can help you with controlling ejaculation too. 

Start doing masturbation and edging every day and before having sex, too. This is very easy (we know, right) and can help you last longer in bed. You can try the start and stop technique in which you go on masturbating but stop when you are about to come. Then, after a while start again. Quite easy, right?

4. Buy a Thicker Condom

Using a thick condom can also help with decreasing the sensation, hence longer sex.

5. The Squeezing Technique

Try the squeezing technique if you are about to cum. All you have to do is to squeeze the tip of your penis for 10-20 seconds and breathe hard long. The longer you squeeze, the longer you hold the cum. 

6. Play by the Order Correct of the Foreplay. It never Upsets. 

Yes, there is an order that can actually help you to control cum and last longer. Let us see how the order goes:

1. Hugging
2. Kissing
3. Touching
4. Cunnilungus
5. Fellatio
6. Sex

Remember, to do this in the same order. Now between touching and cunnilingus, you can get off for a while from her. This piques the interest for both of you. You start again anew, with fresh energy and vigor. 

7. Breathe in, Breathe out

Very easy for you and your sex timing too. All you need to do is to trick your body into believing that you are happy. All you need to do is to take deep and long breaths with your diaphragm to calm yourself down.  Slow down your breathing to make yourself less aroused. And when you are about to cum, take deep breaths moving your shoulders and chest in sync with the heartbeats and your body is tricked into believing that you are done now. So easy and so effective, and above all pretty basic. 

Apart from this, there are many creams and gels that help you not to come fast and delay your orgasm. You can even take drugs that help your delay with the ejaculatory process. But the best is to try these natural methods at home by yourself rather than jumping to PC cream and gels which might have one or more side-effects. 

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