Sometimes, it is necessary to spice things up in the bed. And for that, you and your partner do not need to follow conventional sex positions all the time. This time, to bring some novelty to your sex life, you can just start by practicing some bondage positions and play around with the power and control that one partner always enjoys in it.

Below-mentioned is some of the popular BDSM positions which will help you to make things interesting in your life. Be that as it may, one must talk things through with their partner and ask whether they feel comfortable doing this or not.

After gaining the consent of your partner, you need to do a little research regarding which objects to use and start things with certain safe BDSM poses before jumping to the more complex ones. Therefore, we are here to make your work a bit easier.

What are the safe BDSM positions that can be done by beginners?

1. Heels over head:

More often than not, certain BDSM positions mostly involve submissive sexual positions for one partner as it revolves around the ideas of power and control. In this position, you have to tie the legs of your partner to their wrists.

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Once they are tied, you can play with their asses or slap them and mix some pleasure and pain in the game. However, apart from the common hot and cold theory, you can just disappear for a minute or two saying that you will return in a while. This will help in building your partner’s anticipation.

As and when you return, you can gently start to caress their body parts with warm kisses and mix that with some spanks here and there. Continue doing this until they are crying and asking for it.

2. Eagle spread

Take some hand-cuffs for this BDSM pose. A handkerchief can also work as long as you tie it as hard as possible. For this one, you need to tie the hands as well as legs with the handcuffs or handkerchiefs, whatever you have to each bedpost. This has to be done in such a way that their whole body is spread throughout the bed.

You can try this one with your partner’s face up or down and bring some sex toys and whipped cream to the mix.

3. Punish them with a blindfold

This is one of the most effective BDSM poses which will never fail to give you and your partner what you want. To make this more interesting, you can and your partner can begin with some foreplay where your partner is a criminal.

Once you guys decide on that, you can’t handcuff the criminal, blindfold them and strip their clothes with your hands. Next, you can do a thorough search of their body with your fingers and your tongue, not leaving any trace of their body.

If they move or moan, you can mix the pleasure with some pain and enjoy their reaction.

4. Have a seat

Bonding your partner to the chair is again one of the most popular bondage positions. In this pose, you are required to put your partner in the chair and tie their legs to the bottom of the chair and their arms behind their back or the arms of the chair.

You can start teasing them, by stripping yourself up and leaving them wanting for more. You can also play with your body and caress different parts of your body in front of them. In doing so, you are indeed testing their self-control.

When you feel that the other person cannot take it anymore, you can untie them.

5. Tie them up
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Tying them up with handkerchiefs to the headboard is one of the easiest BDSM positions. If you cannot find a handkerchief, you can use a scarf and tie that too. Once the handkerchief or scarf is tightly secured, you can climb on top of your partner and have your way with them.

Enjoy the total control you have and continue doing what you are doing only when they are comfortable with it and you have their consent. Remember, consent is important. One more thing, before beginning these positions, make sure you and your partner have a safe word decided.

6. Blindfold them

Apart from handcuffing a person, blindfolding them are the most popular actions in BDSM. According to several sex health experts, it is believed that if a person is deprived of even a single sensory deprivation, it can create a spike experiencing erotic pleasure as the blindfolded person has no idea where the partner is going to kiss, spank or lick.

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You can try several sex positions when your partner is blindfolded. However, according to sex experts, the doggy style is considered to be the best one for this. When your partner is on all fours, having no idea where you will touch or kiss them, endless anticipation will be built which is extremely exciting.

7. Make it more sensational

Now, this one is not a conventional BDSM position, rather, it is more about the sensational foreplay which involves a variety of objects, aromas, flavors, moods, atmosphere, and senses. For this one, you can include anything from fur, feathers, silk, satin, cotton balls, water, and ice cubes.

The concept behind indulging in these sensual foreplays is to take advantage of your partner’s sense and make them go wild by sexually stimulating them beyond their imaginations. If you are the dominant partner while spooning, then you can help your partner lie down so they are in touch with your front.

Once you and your partner are comfortable, you can bring the above-mentioned objects in the foreplay such as ice cubes, feathers, and caress their body parts while using them. You will see your partner shiver and writhe under your hold.  

After a while, you can take a new role and provide a completely new sensation by being more dominant than ever.

These are some of the easiest BDSM positions which will help you unravel the kinky side of you and your partner.