If you’ve come across the term “edging” before and don’t quite understand what it means, let us help you out. Edging involves sexual stimulation and the practice of stopping yourself from having an orgasm when you are at the cusp of it, that is right before you are about to climax.
Edging can be confusing to understand, especially because it is known by a lot of other names and terms. Surfing, peaking, teasing: all of these terms refer to edging.
It is possible to practice edging when you are stimulating yourself alone or when you have a partner to do it with you. Anyone can engage in edging irrespective of their gender and sexual orientation.
In recent years, edging has become a popular trend. A number of reasons contribute to that. First and foremost, edging can mean better orgasms. Another popular reason why edging or surfing is popular is that it helps to prevent and avoid premature ejaculation.
Let’s dive in and answer all your questions including, “What is edging?” and “Is edging helpful?
What is edging?
As we said, edging or surfing, or teasing is a popular sexual practice that helps to avoid premature ejaculation and achieve better or longer orgasms. However, edging is like a marathon. You need to practice and get familiar with the technical know-how.
Edging involves sexual stimulation up to the point of achieving an orgasm, that is, the edge and then stopping to take a break from the stimulation.
Not only is edging helpful but it also has multiple benefits. On a comprehensive level, edging can make you more aware of your sexual responses while helping you to discover your love languages.
The number of times you do edging or stop an ejaculation is up to you. The goal is to last longer in bed for a prolonged time.
When it comes to edging, you should be familiar with the steps of arousal. This will help you to understand why you should practice edging and also how to do it.
The basic steps of arousal are:
This is the “butterflies in the stomach” stage. Your skin starts to flush, your heartbeat may go up faster, your muscles get tense and blood flow to your genitalia increases. In the excitement stage, the vagina gets wet and the scrotum withdraws.
This is stage two of whatever happened in the previous stage of excitement. You can feel yourself drawing closer to the big O. However, if you want to do edging, this is the stage where you want o stop yourself or slow down the stimulation.
If you are practising edging, this is the step you need to learn to avoid. In the orgasm stage, a series of muscle and nerve responses occur. There is increased natural lubrication in the vagina and ejaculation in the penis. The Orgasm stage leads to a feeling of ecstasy.
After you orgasm, the body’s natural response is to make sure that your vitals normalize. That means, the tissues return to their non-aroused stage and the refractory period starts. There’s a temporary period where you can’t get aroused again. This can last from minutes to hours or even days.
However, the particular feelings and emotions you get with every stage aren’t the same for everyone. It can depend from person to person.
What is the point of edging?
Now that we’ve answered your question of what is edging, let’s see the point of edging or why you should be edging.
Edging is just a way to make masturbation or sex with a partner last longer. While not true in every case, people with penises usually achieve orgasms faster than those with vaginas. Thus, edging is a natural way to extend the sexual activity.
If your partner complains that you don’t last long in bed, you should give edging a try.
Benefits of Edging
The benefits of edging are the ones that we discussed in brief when we were talking about what is edging. Edging may be fun in sexual play as it invites suspense and teasing, which translates to fun in the bedroom.
The origins of edging can be traced back to measures of avoiding premature ejaculation. So, that is another benefit.
Edging can also help people to experience stronger, more intense, and eventually better orgasms.
Therefore, is edging helpful? Yes, it definitely is.
How to do it?
There are several ways to practice edging. Let’s explore some of them.
- The Stop-Start Method:
This is the most common method of edging. Start masturbating, when you feel like you are about to cum, then stop and take a break. Take a few deep breaths. Wait for a few minutes and start masturbating again. You can repeat these previous steps as many times as you like. Strat masturbating faster and then finally let yourself go.
When you are with a partner, do things to get aroused. Reduce stimulation till they go back to plateau, start the stimulation again, and do this a few times before letting yourself go until they are about to come.
Another fun technique to practice edging is the squeeze technique. For this method, get aroused and stimulate yourself to orgasm. Now right before you are about to orgasm, squeeze the head of the penis to stop your orgasm. Wait for 30 seconds before stimulating yourself again.
- The Ballooning technique:
This one is a great edging technique if you experience premature ejaculation. All you need to do is, find an area on your penis that is particularly sensitive. Don’t touch any other area except that one. Gently move your finger in a circle around that area and keep rubbing till you are fully hard and continue till you are about to come. Now, stop touching the penis before you come, let yourself go a little soft, and then rub the area again till you are ready to orgasm.
Side effects of edging
There aren’t really any side effects to edging as it doesn’t cause any ejaculation problems. However, you should be mindful of how you approach this technique.
If you suffer from anorgasmia, that is, difficulty in reaching orgasm, you shouldn’t try edging. Edging will only make it more difficult for you to orgasm.