You asked her out, went on a date, and had a nice time together. But, now what? Should you text her first? Should you wait for the next day to text her? Or, should you let her make the next move? These questions can be confusing and can make you feel frustrated or anxious. We get it. We’ve all been there. And, there is nothing as annoying as when you meet a stunning girl, exchange numbers and never get that first text.

It’s sad but true. More than often, men have to make the first text move. Then comes the question of when should you text her or if you’re texting her too much. It’s an old-age dilemma and everyone’s been there. Therefore, it’s more common than you think. Here are some tips and tricks that will make your work a lot easier!

When Should You Text Her?

First, remember that texting is a luxury. Now, proceed. Let’s see when should you text her and when should you not. Note that these are just some basic guidelines we’ve laid out to give you an idea. Ultimately, everything depends on how much you like the girl and if she has reciprocated that interest.

1. After a date

If you went out on a date with her and there were undeniable sparks and chemistry between you both, then it’s okay to text her. However, if she seemed disinterested during the date or was even a bit hesitant, then take it as she doesn’t want to see you anymore. A lot of people think that the classic “I had a nice time with you” text is boring but trust us, girls appreciate it. Just let her know that you had a nice time and would like to see her again. You can take the conversation forward from there. But, remember to be unique. Maybe bring up something you spoke about or she mentioned during the date and talk about that. 

2. After she gives you a number

There is one common mistake that every man is guilty of making. It is to wait too long or even forever before sending out the first text. Don’t do this. It’s a code red. Avoid waiting too long at any cost. If you wait too long, she will assume you’re not interested and move on. You don’t want to make the mistake of thinking that you’re the only one who’s texting her. We assure you that you’re not. Other guys have her number too. Therefore, it’s time to make a move. Text her within a few hours of getting her number and say something funny. Don’t go for a cliche introduction or use a compliment as an opening line. It’s not attractive.

3. When you think about her

You went out on a date with her the previous day, thus, it’s natural to think about her. There is no trick to this one. Just let her know that you’ve been thinking about her. However, avoid saying something sexual or flirty. You don’t want to come off as desperate. 

4. When you haven’t heard from her all day

If you both are into that cute and flirty routine of texting regularly and you haven’t heard from her all day, it’s okay to send her a text. Don’t sound worrying or annoying. Keep your text lighthearted or go for a simple, “How was your day?”. It’s simple but super effective.

5. If something reminds you of her

You may come across a TikTok video, an Instagram reel, or simply a meme that reminds you of her or something she will like. Let her know. Send her the meme or the video and just hit her up with a simple, “This reminds me of you”. Girls love this. It makes them feel appreciated and will definitely put a smile on her face. All of these were obvious instances of when you should text her. 

When Should You Not Text Her?

Just like everything else on this planet, there are do’s and don’ts to texting as well. You don’t have to be a love guru or a dating expert to know these or to know when to text her. Just a little experience, practice, and maturity goes a long way. Let’s look at instances when you should not text her. 

1. If she seems upset

It’s possible that you slightly enraged her or upset her while texting her. If this happens, don’t hit her up again immediately. Wait for the situation to nullify and for her to calm down. She will likely text you after a while. If it has been half a day and she hasn’t texted you, hit her up with an apology or a thoughtful text. Or, if you’ve done nothing from your side but she seems annoyed, lay off. You don’t want to put yourself in the middle of it. If someone’s had a bad day, they’re usually in a terrible mood to text. 

2. It’s past 11 pm

If you want to strike up a conversation but you notice that it’s past 11 pm, wait for the next day. This is because you don’t want to come off as desperate or make your text seem like a booty call. Even if it’s not your intention, it can send the wrong message. 

3. If she hasn’t responded to your last text

This is simple. If she hasn’t responded to your last text, she’s not interested. Don’t think that your text got lost in the way. It’s technology, it doesn’t work like that. It may be possible that she’s busy and that is why she couldn’t reply. Now if that is the case, then she will text back when she finds the time. If you double text, you can come off as possessive, needy, or clingy. Women don’t like that. 

4. She has made it clear that she is not into you

This one is a no-brainer. If she has sent her signals, take it at face value. We know it sucks. But, it is what it is. 

5. When she’s out with her girls

One of the worst things you can do is text her when she has told you she’s meeting her friends. Your text, in this case, is a distraction that she doesn’t want. So lay off. Text her the next day or wait for her to text you.

We know that deciding when you should text her can be complicated. But, it’s not that hard. Respect her, read her signs, and then make your move!

Also Read: 6 Reasons Why Men Are Still Expected To Make The First Move